I was surprised to see a woman having a rant on Facebook about how someone “cammed” her in Second Life. She was not in her private home in the sky when it happened, but was on the ground at a sim she was visiting; and the woman who cammed her was someone who worked at the sim. Amazingly she told the lady to “get your cam off of me” and then continued to tell her off. She was eventually ejected for her rudeness, and now wants to complain over this too.
If I were this lady I’d turn off the feature that shows where people have their camera. In the old days we didn’t have the option to know who was camming us, and when we did most didn’t know about it. We were oblivious to where people were looking. Since being cammed upsets her like this, I think it’s better she not know.
For me, camming is the equivalent of “looking” and if you’re in a public place people have to right to zoom in on you. It’s the nature of Second Life. If you’re making love in your own private skybox and being cammed then, sure, tell the person to knock it off; but I think in public places we should expect to be seen.
Guess what? You can cam me as often as you want. Watch me all day: I don’t mind! If I’m in a public place, I expect everyone to be watching anyway, like my own Big Brother show.
I resisted the urge to respond to this lady’s rant directly, and I won’t name names. But jeepers! I looked at her photos and in many of them she is walking around scantily clad with loads of cleavage hanging out; and yet she is offended if someone puts their cam on her? Silliest thing I’ve read all day.
If she doesn’t want to be cammed, i suggest she quits sl, becomes a hermit and lives in a cave somewhere in the middle of nowhere.
Being watched is equally prevalent in rl, where there’s absolutely no comeback and it’s implicit in sl – no matter who you are, someone will be camming you most of the time.
i’d love to know what her profile says – presumably it’s completely empty… after all, it’s nobody’s business to be reading it, right?
Half the fun of sl – as in rl – is people-watching and i shall carry on doing it, (whilst respecting others’ right to privacy, of course), for as long as i’m here, and i’m happy for people to watch me too… although i can think of far more interesting people to watch! (Take that Vella person who writes Moonletters X, for example… you wouldn’t believe some of the stuff she gets up to…)
I agree, Seren. The fun of SL is getting to look at everything around, including the people (or especially people). Funny you mention looking at profiles. I actually remember someone who didn’t want people “perving” their profile. Isn’t that what it’s there for?
Please don’t tell us her FB page is filled with her SL pix, I’d LOL such as to have people checking my cubicle! “Don’t cam me, just pay attention when I’ve cammed myself.”
*rolls eyes*
I also agree with the “ignorance is bliss” setting as regards other peoples’ cams. Isn’t that why we spend too many Lindens and time on our appearance?
I am always telling complete strangers how lovely they look or refer to a particular item of clothing or hair. That’s prima facie evidence of camming, I suppose. (I would never do the opposite, tell someone how awful they looked, and I’ve seen plenty of that. I even subscribed to a Website that specialized in featuring photos of what-were-they-thinking? wardrobes.)