I once knew someone with a friend who joined a celibacy group in Second Life, something apparently for people who did not want to do “teh sex” in the virtual world. All well and good (not wanting to do sex I mean) but I found it humorous that someone would actually make a public group to broadcast this fact.
Truth is, the person my friend knew was a male using a female avatar. He joined the celibacy group because he thought it made his female persona seem more realistic and a little challenging.
I think to be celibate in SL the last thing you want to do is plaster the fact all over your public profile. I would bet money that people in the celibacy group get chatted up more than those not in the group, just as people who list partners in their profile often get flirted with more.
I’ve seen women say things like “I’m a nun in Second Life.” While this is a joke on the surface, if it’s proclaimed loudly in front of a group of men it’s nearly the equivalent of joining the public celibacy group. It can, in some cases, be interpreted as a challenge.
Those who really have no interest in “teh sex” will not usually tell you in their profile that they’re not interested in it, just as people who do not cause drama rarely feel the need to whinge about how much they hate drama. The exception is the husband who puts “I’m taken now and want friendship only, no sex. I only have eyes for my Gigi.” On the surface this sounds nice, but I think it has possible deeper meanings such as. 1. Please do not tempt me by flirting with me. I’m with Gigi now and I’m trying real hard not to cheat on her. Or 2. If I don’t put this message here Gigi will kick me in the nuts.
Here’s some other possible meanings you can suss out from “I don’t do sex” statements in public profiles.
1. Person did it before and got dumped/cheated on/hurt. (Self preservation)
2. Person hates when strangers flirt with them, and wants to prevent someone bothering them. (Like asking telemarketers to put you on the “do not call” list.)
3. Person wants to appease a jealous partner.
4. Person wants to avoid temptation. (If so, better not to put anything at all, I say)
5. Person is a man with a female avatar who wants to seem “legit.”
Note: If statement comes from a woman who says “I don’t do sex with men” just take that literally. It means just what it says.
Reversal: Those who have public profiles which are all about “teh sex” — I have to wonder about them. But that’s a whole other topic!